This blog was originally posted to CarinMaxey.com
It is a common misconception that our nation’s divorce rate is at 50% or higher. Some people rattle off this statistic as if it is a cold, hard fact. In reality, the divorce rate in the United States has been decreasing since 2015 making it the lowest it has been in almost 40 years. That being said, it is still between 42% and 45%. But, why is it so high? What is causing couples to walk away from marriage?
Here are five common reasons couples filed for divorce in 2017.
A toxic relationship takes a considerable toll on both parties. Any form of spousal abuse, be it physical, sexual, verbal, or emotional, can cause a partner to question their role in the marital relationship. Although it may take some time, the degradation may eventually lead to a change in the status quo, forcing the victimized partner to protect their wellbeing by exiting the union
Financial disputes routinely contribute to divorce cases nationwide. In fact, one study found that disagreements related to money “were a top predictor for divorce ‘regardless of their income, debt or net worth.’” Translation: financial harmony is more important than monetary wealth. If a couple has differing opinions on money management, it can lead to excess strain on the relationship in the form of arguments and resentment.
Age plays a significant role when it comes to marriage. Couples that wed at a young age are often the victims of divorce. Current society standards are placing strenuous amounts of pressure on young adults to behave like their elders, and digital prevalence is allowing them to progress through the stages of a relationship faster. Unfortunately, adults in their lower twenties have not yet finished maturing. They are still figuring out their goals, attitudes, and interests. Frequently, the personality they develop as they age is entirely different than the one they had when first married.
Divorce due to identity trouble encompasses a whole breadth of potential marital issues. Things like midlife crises and personal growth fall into this category. The discord builds on a feeling of inequality. Maybe one partner is evolving faster than the other. Perhaps one partner is not evolving at all. In either case, the other party is left feeling lonely, hurt, or angry. Change is a hard concept to grasp for most individuals, and even hard to comprehend as a couple.
Conventional beliefs often dictate that many individuals stay in an unhealthy marriage for the sake of their kids. It seems, however, that this may not be the case any longer. Parents are becoming more conscious of the environment in which they rear their child. A home life that is considered “unhealthy” is a substantial determining factor in divorce.